Where do I go from here!? Ok... so at about age 12-13 i got into porn and masturbation and read up on the male g-spot and went ahead and tried it... and liked it.... but thought it was wrong..you know EXIT ONLY! so i did it a few more times then swore to not do it again. Never did i think about guys at all.. it was the female body and sexual sounds that always got me off... all the way through high school it was like this... a couple girlfriends later and me being insecure about myself because they cheated on me.... i slowly became addicted to drugs and alcohol... then got another girlfriend and it was GREAT sex was great everything was awesome!! then i started becoming addicted to sex.. begging her for it... then i got into cocaine.. started cheating on her... started working with a bunch of gays and they hit on me but i was VERY uncomfortable... anyways i ended up looking on craigslist and met up with a guy who fu#$% me and it felt good but that was it.. i didn't like any of the kissing or touching... now after that i looked on craigslist some more and met up with some tranny hookers... and that was crazy.. i mean they got the hot looks of a girl and a penis... but it felt wrong.. ya know?... like ya it was a good time. but it's not like i want a relationship or could fall in love... MY POINT IS I JUST CAN'T FATHOM THE IDEA OF CUDDLING WITH A GUY OR TRANNY AT NIGHT! no way... i think its strictly a sexual thing.. where do i go from here?
Friend... to me it seems you are emotionally very tangled.
Remember, sex without love is just a momentary thrill.
Seriously (not sarcastically) you should seek counseling.
Found distubing porn on fiance's computer...need HONEST men to tell what to think please! (No homophobes pls) Hi there to you all.
I have a problem and to get some perspective on what is 'normal', I would appreciate your input (especially HONEST males).
We've been together 5 years and moved in together about a year ago...and since moving in we've argued/fought alot. I know this has affected our sex life (usually a couple times a week but now a couple times a month...we bicker alot), but am also worried about how much online porn/masturbation is replacing our sex. And I know it was wrong, but I snooped in his computer...wanted to see if I was dealing with a closet porn addict.
Well, I found that he does go on several times a day (3-5 times) about 4 days out of the week. And I also found some pretty raunchy stuff (lots of group sex with both opposite-sex AND same-sex action) and also found a handful of tranny sites amidst all the normal 'straight' porn. I'd say about 75% was run of the mill straight stuff...but about 25% had trannies and MMF group sex. All of what I found was visited pretty regularly...the tranny stuff at least twice last month (not sure how often beyond January 2008).
Does viewing these kinds of things mean that he is definitely bi-curious? Or is it possible that men are just sex fiends and it is the 'Freak factor" and raunchiness that is doing it for him? I understand the raunch appeal-I've occasionally looked at and been turned on by things that I would NEVER actually explore and never actively fantasize about...just came across it and felt ashamed after looking.
I love him and don't think he's gay. Just worried that this mean this discovery show he might want to explore being with men. Please help! Should I ask him about it or will he be so mortified that it'll do permanent damage to our relationship (either way-bi or not).
Thanks so much...I'm freaking out here.
Men like porn, yes. But if it is affecting your sex life or any controlling any other part of his life he has an addiction. If you want to share his attentions with a monitor, by all means continue this relationship.