How can i convince my Hardcore Christian Conservative Mom to let me join the Military? ? She wont let me join because of the guns and stuff you know....violence?
I told her I'm going to be a Medic so I'll be saving lives and i dont have to hold a gun.. But still she refuses....she wants me to finish nursing which i think is gay....
What should i say to her to convince her that it's ok? |
Simply tell her that this is your dream and you will be pursuing it whether or not she approves. It is simply that her approval is very important to you and that you want her to be proud of you. You can also mention that you feel you could make more of a difference in the world this way and this is what you feel you were put on this earth to do. In addition to which the discipline and educational opportunities will help you grow and develop as a person so that you can be better prepared to support your family and instill good values in your guyren when the time comes.
Sure this method is playing it up a little bit but it should do the trick. Having the approval of one's parents can give a bit of peace of mind. It's not about being able to do what you want. Any idiot can marry a crack wh*re that their mother doesn't approve of. Does it mean they should? Heck no. It's much better to be on the same page.
Keep in mind that mothers will always worry about their guyren and are quite often overprotective. Well in most cases. When I was accepting my commission, my mother told me to take my brother with me into the army. Go figure. |
I have a very eclectic style from pop to emo to hardcore to your mom? Does anyone know where kevin jonas says that?
a link would be awesome. :D
please and thank you |
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My mom is a hardcore liberal, I'm a conservative. How can we coexist? How do I live peacfully with my mom? I'm at her house for most of the time, and when I go to my dad's we don't have a problem. I mean we try not to talk about politics much but when she critisizes republicans I'm not just going to sit there. |
| I feel your pain . I've got a close relative who looks for fights in an effort to defend - OF ALL THINGS - michael moore . Just say you are getting a headache and can't talk right now . Then walk away to another room , or another peaceful area . |
Ok my couin is about to take a blood work tomorrow morning because her mom thinks shes doing "hardcore" drugs? my cousin is only smoked pot and because theres a bunch of drama going on she is making everyone take one... how far back do blood works , u.a.'s , and follicle testing go? |
Hair goes back ninety days
Blood goes back 2-3 days if infrequent use and 2 weeks if frequent use |
Why all of a sudden everyone and their moms mom is hardcore hating on the gators?!?!? it terrible that you people are straight hating on Florida because the season, or the champ. game didnt work out the way they expected...its friggin lame and just makes you all look like little byatches.... |
It's called jealousy. I'll take my Gators, thank you...plus Urban...oh and I'll gladly take a guy who does charity work and stays out of trouble. Oh, and throw in a RIDICULOUSLY HIGH graduation rate under Coach Meyer...
Please keep hatin'...must mean the Gators are doing something right.
As for "easy" games...ALL SCHOOLS SCHEDULE THEM. Consider those games charity -- lots of money to play a better team that can then be used to improve the smaller team. IE, University At Buffalo (where I live, unfortunately) which was a really bad Div II school, but used that $$ to improve facilities, program, etc, and ended up going to their 1st bowl game this year.
As for obnoxious fans...I live in NY...Ohio State fans are FAR WORSE, followed by Michigan fans.
GO GATORS |
Is it just me or is my mom hardcore ridiculous? i am 26 years old. i am currently living with my mom and dad. my mom has made me stay with her and she is doing her best so that i don't leave. she wants me to leave when i graduate from college, which will be in like four years. i know that she is trying help me, but she is ruing my life. she is very controlling. if she sees me waring something that she does not like for college, like a hat for instance she will tell me to take it off. if i dont she will take it away from me. last year she stole my ipod bc according to her i am not allowed to have any friends. she also took my laptop away, and i was threatend by her. she told me that if i was caught on a pc/mac then she will take more things away from me.
i get really sad when i hear other people say "oh i went to the mall with her" 'oh im going to a party".
to be honest with you, my life style is not very good at all. the only thing that i do is go to class, go straight home, do my homework, and die of boredom in my room. she makes me go to bed at around 11:30... she is driving me crazy. oh and check this out, she gave me a magic jack for christmas. the only thing that i can use it for is college stuff. and she pays really good attention on who i talk to.
i walk to some apartments ( i do not drive yet. i have had the money for a car and for my license. the problem is that i "HAVE" to let my mom borrow money so that she can pay her college loans, and her credit card, which is 450 a month. i had 3,000 dollars and now i am at 90 dollars. no matter how much a save, i always end up at ground zero. how am i supposed to live my life???,) which is about 20 min away from a grocery store, and about 15 min walking to the college that i attend. i move in on saturday. i have not told my mom, i am going to tell her that i am leaving, when she sees me packing. i have not told my dad. i dont think that i am bc my mom and dad have issues. they do not talk. there are certain things that my mom does not want me to tell my dad and if i told him that i am leaving then i am forced to tell him everything and it will get matters worse.
my questions are
1. when she sees me packing and she gets upset and tells me why i am leaving what should i say?
2. i am a us citizen, but what if she calls the police?
3. what would you do if you had a very controlling, manipulative, very paranoid mother, especially if you were in my shoes?
thanks:/
p.s. i forgot to mention, i got certified in music production in 2005. i decided to go back to college.
and also i do not what it is like to out by my self. if i go some where my mom has to be present.. she lives the life of my brother and i. according to her i am not allowed to where contacts bc she does not like them. she does not let me ware shorts to college bc she does not like that... she believes that my brother and i are "HER". i am the oldest. i am 26 years old and my brother is 24 years old.
5. is it just me or is she ridiculous? |
It's time to leave your 26!
1) Sit her down and tell her your leaving rather than wait for her to find in you action packing. (pro active not reactive is always advisable!) Don't go out of your way to upset her just say you're old enough and need to start becoming an adult and living independently and her job of raising you to be an adult is done you now feel you're ready to start out as an on your own (fly away from the nest!)- you'll still keep in touch by phone and agree how often you'll come back or she can visit so she doesn't feel like she's loosing you.
2) I can not understand why the police would get involved (or interested if she rang them) since you're over 18
3) don't blame yourself or let it ruin your life- realise she has issues and find a way to cope with them yourself and 'manage' your mum in a way that can work for both of you- there's probably little hope of trying to change her so you need to change the way you deal with it as this is the only thing you have control over. When you leave still let her feel like she control of things (that you choose and are less important to you ) so for example you could say I'm leaving but I need you to help me work out my bills at my new place, or groceries or whatever.. - it will help her feel like is she is keeping up her role of 'mother' and having some control while you can live your own life. Consider looking into mental health help for her if you think she's got real issues.
Also think about getting yourself some support from a charity/ youth club type place / counsellor as years of being controlled by someone can leave you very vulnerable and naive and you need to be sure other people don't take advantage of you while you find your feet as an independent adult, otherwise you will think you can't cope and have to go back to your mum's. Don't know about if you have the same or similar in the US but the Samaritans in the UK is the sort of place that can point you in the right direction of how to get help to get your self sorted as an independent adult. Join all your college clubs and get involved as much as possible with your new freedom you'll make friends in no time!
Don't expect a miracle over night or else your relationship with your mum could get really stressful- just try and help her adapt to your new move bit by bit by not cutting her off completely overnight or anything drastic after a big argument.. keep that link between you, once you are settled you also need to work through your Mum's money problems with her (not by using your own!) but by helping her get in control of hers..
Don't forget you're a role model for your brother and you finding freedom while keeping a good relationship with you mum will allow him to do it in the future too- keep this in your mind to inspire you to deal with the situation in calm and adult way.
Good luck with the move and when it comes to the chat with your mum- keep it calm and don't scream and yell and say big grand hurtful things- it won't do anything but upset her and you!
All the best! |
My boyfriends dad is jewish (hardcore) and his mom is white/British non-religious? so should I buy him a christmas present or 8 hanukkah presents?!! haha |
ONE PRESENT.
& 8 LOVE.. |
How can I get my mom to understand? My mom is a hardcore Christian, and I used to be one when I was little. But lately, I feel I have no reason to believe there is a God. To me, something big and amazing has to happen or one of my prayers has to be answered (and so far, no prayers answered)
And I've told my mom that and she is completely MAD at me. Like, she grounded me for a month because of this.
How can I get my mom to understand how I feel? |
| Introduce her to something called religious freedom. |
What should I do for my mom this mother's day? Well, my papa just died, and my mom's birthday is april 29th. I don't know what to do... Breakfast in bed? My mom is hardcore, old school. She's the type of person that stands up for herself. If someone was to offend her, she would answer with her fists. You know what I mean. So what should I do? Oh, and my mom's and my relationship is very close. |
My mom is the same way... not really the mushy type for cards and flowers. But being as you guys are so close, you could get creative and buy a nice collage photo frame (target and walmart have them) and put pics of you, her and your papa in it and of course any other close family. Or make her, her favorite meal. Does she have a favorite funny movie?? Does she like to read?? You could get her a book by her favorite author. Good luck and I am sorry for you loss.
Add: you could name a star after her. I am not sure how much it cost, but you can order it on line. I would google, star naming registry... |